Thursday, March 22, 2007

Love

Love is blind. Many fell in love and got blinded in the process. Teenagers with lots of raging hormones might mistaken lust and infatuation for love. They aren't the only ones, though. Adults too would mistake other feelings of attraction for love.


Some teens would go around in their school thinking that there is only one who is better than the rest and that there's only one in this world like their person. True, he/she could be the only one in this world like him/her. Afterall, each person is unique. But when they get out of their little high school world, they'll find that there are many people way better and attractively unique compared to their supposedly 'only one'. Adults could be blinded in a sense that they fail to notice the many flaws of their partner. That is until after marriage, of course. After the 'I do's', their eyes would start to open and the first thing that comes of mind when the light hits their eyes is, "I married this person??"


Really, love IS blind. So what excactly is love? According to scientists, love is chemistry. The feeling itself involves a number of hormones such as oxytocin, vasopressin, endorphin and some others. They are called bonding chemicals, as in bonding of humans. Chemistry changes our emotions, personality or temperament. Maybe that is why many of us are blinded by love? Because of the changing hormones and chemicals that run through our veins?


However, I view love differently. I believe love has got to be more than just chemistry. It comes from the soul. The soul lives on it, feeds on it. Chemistry burns out sooner or later. Think of those successful marriages. Surely the chemistry must have burnt out after years and years of facing each other. But why a successful marriage? Love, of course! Love doesn't mean you have to feel an attraction or lust for the person of admiration. And loving someone doesn't mean that the person is P-E-R-F-E-C-T. Love, maybe is, coming to know of all the flaws of 'the one', yet still continuing to, well, love. Just like what God did and is still doing.


As a teen, you might have felt resentment against your parents for setting too many rules, right? You hate the way they scold you, limit you, and you would certaintly hate that they don't trust you at a point. But once they're in trouble or suffering from illness, you would surely feel that little pang of panic, feel that crease over your eye brows as you start to worry... You love your parents enough that you care for them, worry for them, achieve for them. Hates and dislikes certaintly don't 'bond'. No chemistry there.


So my conclusion; chemistry isn't love or vice versa. Loving even though there are many flaws and things that don't agree with you, that's love. But who am I to say, right? I'm just a kid. And this is just my theory.